The recent death of a film actor has taken social media by storm.. Everyone’s just posting and saying things like they would be all ears for their friends and kins..they would stand by their friends in the hour of dismay..and all that but the thing to ponder about remains the same ..why do we pay heed to one’s call for support when its already too late..or do we wait for such incidents to happen to “wake up” !!?
The worst part is this all will again die down soon..and we will return to being our ignorant self..
It’s really insensitive on our part not being able to recognize and realise what a person is going through , even if he is trying to be vocal about his pain, suffering and exertion..
The sole reason of it being we don’t validate someone’s feelings unless we have experienced it ourselves..
Time and over we have been convinced and made to believe it’s all about sticking the smile to one’s face no matter what…thats how you would come across as a jovial person..
We have never been told that it’s okay to be not being able to look “okay”.. most of the time we just disregard them saying they are a crybaby..
Had we been told that it’s equally important to sometimes cry our heart out..shed it all..its humane to feel frail, feeble and fagile.. ,the picture today would have been different..
We would have been more accepting of other’s emotions….both in their strong and weak hours..
We live in so much of denial towards other’s feelings that if someone is being in the darkest hour of their lives..instead of being expressive about it..and reaching and seeking out for help..they consider it more aggreable to confide within themselves..bottling it up all within themselves..
And why is it all so..just because if they couraged to speak about their suffering..they would be termed ,”weak”.
But the fact being ..weakness lies in not accepting the reality.. Not being able to accept people the way they are..Making others feel guilty for the way they are and how they feel..because they can’t accept not only other’s..but even their own uncomfortable feelings..
People aren’t weak..But yes they can have weak moments..where they may feel helpless, hopeless,useless, irreparable and a liability on others..and that is okay..its okay to feel vulnerable ..No one chooses to feel sad..
Many amongst us would label them as cowards..but not once we question ourselves that if we were sensitive to their taumas, their sufferings in order for them to confide their fears and feelings to us.
So , if not embrace , then let us at least be more thoughtful of what we say and how we respond to other’s ways of life..One doesnt always need to cry to prove that they are not in a mental state of peace..
Even without a reason..be kinder..lets try to be more aware and accepting of the people around us..
Maybe someday we will be able to create a world where we can share our REAL feelings more often..and be who we REALLY are..✌️